>I am 26 years old now and all my life there was only few times where I lost my patience and said something bad out of my anger. It takes so long before I completely get angry and it takes a lot of pain, anger, disappointment and other mixed emotions before I lost the “Nice” of me.
You can never tell nor predict I have bad feelings for you unless I say so or show it. I just grew up with “smile” for everybody even to complete strangers. I even remember a classmate of mine in high school who told me (Annie you just seem to have no problem or any hardship in your life as you always Smile and look happy everyday)…
Where I was when it showers “rudeness” in this world? I don’t have a clue… But things change as you go older. The more experience you have in life, the more you learned. As I always believe, Life is a process of learning; it is a matter of “Choice” that only YOU who can decide on what to do NEXT… I understand the word “Failure” but it would only applies if you think of it, allow it make you so miserable and/or embrace it. I strongly believed that there’s “HOPE”, and “Being Positive”. You will “LEARN” in every single thing you do or done in your life…
Back to “Being Nice”, I am tired and sick of it. I’ve learned my lesson, as people tend to abused you when you are always “Nice”… they treat you for granted and forget to even consider what you feel or might feel… In people’s mind it is OK to do this or say this because “She Is Nice”…
I used to have difficulty of saying the word “No” to people. Before I say or do anything to somebody, I always consider what he or she is going to feel… but I realized how bad it is for myself. It is becoming unhealthy that makes me sick, tired, stressful and gets headaches thinking of so many things.
I found out I am right that “Being Nice” is really unhealthy. According to Dr. Vicki Rackner, author of “The Personal Health Journal”, being “NICE” can be hazardous to your health as it erodes your health and impairs your ability to get better if you’re sick”.
She said that “Trying to avoid or ignore conflict and anger is like trying to hold a beach ball under water. Unexpressed feelings can pop up as physical ailments, such as heartburn or depression or back pain”.
The term she used is “People-Pleasers”. I hate it but I think I am in this category… but good thing about me is I am aware of it, learned from it and most importantly I am open of “Change” as a matter of fact, I’ve learned to say NO…
I’ve been through a lot and I can say it really changed me as a person (big time). I have been tired and sick of so many things just because of being “NICE”.
I promised to take care and love myself First. I need to enjoy my life, be true to myself and be happy. I am doing all of this not only for myself but also for my little angel who inspire me so much since the day I found out I was pregnant.